Empathy, as it’s been talked about recently, is most often framed as something important to practice for our users. It’s important to make sure we’re helping our users get the content they desire or get through the flow of our site to do what’s important to them.
What is getting lost, though, is that empathy is just as important for us to practice as we interact with our team members—all of us, developers, designers, writers, and project managers, can practice empathy as we work with our teammates. Empathy is just as much about our interactions with each other while we build our sites, as it is about how we treat our users.
As I’ve thought more about this, I’ve come up with a few ways to practice empathy with my teammates.
Remember shared goals
Designers want to build something just as great as I do, but they’re coming at it from a different angle. Spacing, margins, type-size tweaks—they all matter just as much as my clean markup and modular CSS. It’s easy to get annoyed at requests that don’t seem important, but instead, I actively remind myself that every part of a site is important.
Learn something new
Listen to each other
When I work with a new team, I start out by listening and observing the system they use to write code. Unless I’ve been brought in specifically to look at a process and make it better, I prefer to just watch, listen, and ask questions so that I can see where they’re coming from, learn the history, and understand why they do things the way they do.
With my current team, I waited a bit and then started asking questions about tools and processes. To my mind, one of the tools they use seemed outdated and a bit painful. But after observing a bit, and then asking about it, I found out their reasons for using it and they’ve changed my mind: I now see it’s the best fit for the team. Those first few weeks working with a new team can be stressful for everyone, but listening and observing for a while can cut down on the stress and friction.
When trying to be more empathetic with team members, I try to ask myself:
- What is the other person’s point of view? Since we all come from different specialities, we have different things we think are important. The old cliché of walking in another’s shoes is applicable here.
- How do my skills fit in with the group and what can I do to make it easier for everyone to understand my point of view? Can I document a process or explain my ideas in a less technical manner for those members that don’t have my expertise?
- What’s the final goal of the project and how does each person contribute to that goal? If I understand that, then I can also understand how I fit into it and how my colleagues do as well.
We each have our own role on a team, so the questions you think about as you work with your team may be different, but being aware of these things is half the battle to reminding yourself that everyone doesn’t think the way that you do and that’s probably a good thing. Hopefully, it means you end up with a better completed project in the end.
These are just a few of the ways I’ve come up with lately to practice empathy with my team. It’s just as important as making sure we are empathetic to our users, and it makes working together easier and more fun. I’d love to hear more ideas on how you think about empathy within your teams too, so please share them in the comments.